Coping With Life Changes

Recently I have been thrown into the world of change.  My partner and I need to find a new place to live.  For me, the issue of needing a new home brings up lots of issues around safety and security.  The challenge is always for me to honour the feelings change can bring up for me and to focus on why change is good.  I like to think about what the new change will make space for in my life.


How are you with change?  Are you one of those people that runs head first, embracing change?  Or do you do everything possible to prevent change? My advisor would tell me when I was in Graduate School, "You Can Run But You Cannot Hide".  No matter how hard we try to push against change, we cannot stop or avoid change.


The majority of us will have some difficulty with change regardless of your coping style.    It is much easier to cope with change if we are making the choices and are, thus in the driver's seat.  For example, think about the difference of between choosing to quit your job versus being fired.  


There is no question that change can be really difficult.  Since change is the one of the constants in life, it is important that we all have tools to help us to deal with all sorts of changes.  I have found that change that comes from dealing with the death/illness of a loved one, hearing bad news or learning a diagnosis or suffering from an accident are some of the most difficult changes.  Prevailing attitudes in Western culture in which emotions don't seem to be honoured don't help.  I have found that we have to deal with these painful emotions in order for us to be able to move through feelings of sadness, anger and loss that can happen through any change.


Homeopathy can be incredibly useful in dealing with grief, recovering from an accident and anxiety associated with change.  I have used homeopathic remedies personally and professionally to help people cope with life changes.


Dealing with Grief:
There is an excellent remedy that is useful for grief that can come from death or serious illness of your self or a loved one as well as hearing bad news.  Ignatia Amara is especially indicated when you feel like you can't stop crying or you are alternating between crying and laughing.  There also can be uncontrollable sighing, a sensation of a lump in the throat and difficulty sleeping at night (even though you may be sleepy during the day).  


Many people never seem to recover from a life-changing event such as death of a loved one or losing a business.  Homeopathy can be very helpful for this as well.  Since Homeopathy is always individualized to each person, there are no specific remedies for this.  It is important to see a trained Homeopath for a chronic consultation if you are suffering from either acute or chronic grief.


Other Tips:
1) It is important to give yourself space to go through the grieving process or to process feelings associated with change.  Give yourself permission to have your feelings while you are going through change.  If you do need more guidance, please consult a trained counsellor or psychotherapist.


2) Self-Care:  The more you can connect with your own needs, the more able you will be figure out what you need to do to make it through change.


3) Find Support:  This could mean accessing your support network for help or just to listen.  Access body work or other energetic therapies which are not only good for relaxation but can also help you process your feelings.  Some modalities that I like are Reiki and Shiatsu.


4) Keep making sure you are eating well, getting exercise and getting adequate sleep can be so helpful.




If you are struggling with dealing with change, consider coming in for homeopathic treatment to help boost your immune system and to help you to better cope with life transitions.


Rebecca Gower
Red Pearl Homeopathy
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